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Dear Ben, I am writing to you today as a woman who was born and raised in Islam. I saw your discussion with Bill Maher and Sam Harris, and I must say you did me a great disservice that day. Your heart was in the right place, of course, and it was lovely of you to step up and defend ‘my people’. What you really did though, perhaps inadvertently, was silence a conversation that never gets started. Two people attempted to begin a dialogue and you wouldn’t even listen. Why should any set of ideas be above criticism, Ben? Why are Muslims being ‘preserved’ in some time capsule of centuries gone by? Why is it okay that we continue to live in a world where our women are compared to candy waiting to be consumed? Why is it okay for women of the rest of the world to fight for freedom and...
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Dear Times of India, There are times when one should keep quiet. If most of the online world is lambasting you, even if you think you’re right it wouldn’t hurt to introspect a little and wonder why people are reacting the way they are. Your response to Deepika Padukone’s fuming tweet and post on Facebook against your article on her, or more specifically on her breasts, is both shocking and unexpected. You could have chosen to apologise. Or you could have chosen to keep quiet. But by doing neither and by misunderstanding the issue entirely, you’ve only dug yourself deeper into a hole. You’ve started your article in Bombay Times (‘Dear Deepika, our point of view,’ Sept. 21) saying, “As one of the largest media houses in the world with interests in print, TV, radio and online, we...
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Dear Soon-To-Be Graduate, Hi, my name is Fitz Villafuerte. I’m sure you don’t know me because most of my readers are OFWs and young urban professionals – so I’d like to welcome you here, to my blog. I’m an entrepreneur, an investor and a personal finance advocate. This blog, which I’ve been writing in for eight years now, is where I teach people about money; and occasionally, it’s where I talk about life and share the lessons I’ve learned. Today, I’m doing the latter part. Your last semester You are now on your last semester, and probably stressed about your exams and thesis, or anxious about your board exam or job applications. And then there’s that everyday, bittersweet feeling that you’re spending your last days with your college friends – I know because I felt it...
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Dear Prime Minister, M Rogge, Lord Coe and Members of the International Olympic Committee, I write in the earnest hope that all those with a love of sport and the Olympic spirit will consider the stain on the Five Rings that occurred when the 1936 Berlin Olympics proceeded under the exultant aegis of a tyrant who had passed into law, two years earlier, an act which singled out for special persecution a minority whose only crime was the accident of their birth. In his case he banned Jews from academic tenure or public office, he made sure that the police turned a blind eye to any beatings, thefts or humiliations inflicted on them, he burned and banned books written by them. He claimed they “polluted” the purity and tradition of what it was to be German, that they were a threat to the...
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Okay, let’s admit it. Life sucks! You often utter these words, you might have said it a number of times in a day that, “My Life really sucks.” I’m amazed by the people, who are so dissatisfied with their lives as if they never had anything in their lives. They are not at all contented with the things they own, their relationships, the food they are eating, the clothes they are wearing, house they are living, jobs they are doing and there are ‘n’ number of things of which they are so ungrateful off. And I’m sorry to say, you too fall in the same category. You’re not at all happy with your existing life and eventually you accept it in your heart that your life sucks too. You know why? Because you don’t stand a chance, you think that you don’t deserve to be happy....
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I tried contacting you privately, but was told by Dr. Spartaco Landi (technician at SPS, University of Kent, Canterbury) to not contact you. I've even tried contacting the university HR department to keep this private as well. If you had read my messages, you would have realized that I was trying to warn you about him, but you leave me no choice now but to publish this open letter. Read the chats from Spartaco Landi and tell me that you're convinced he suddenly has feelings for you. His landlady is giving him hell by increasing his rent by £40 as well as introducing restrictive rules and he sees you as a way out of it. Spartaco Landi is not interested in you, he's interested in your house! To help you sift through the chat, I highlighted the important part in red. The only way...
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You must be cringing as you read this. You must be thinking I'm going to school you on how to treat your new boyfriend. You must be thinking I'm going to lay down some laws about how to treat my children. That is not at all what this letter is about. I would like to welcome you. Welcome to this unique dynamic of "modern family." Welcome to the way we wing this life and this relationship. Yes, I said relationship, but not by its standard definition. The children keep us in a relationship, much like your work keeps you in a relationship with your boss. If success is the goal, whether in work or parenting, the relationship between those who strive for that is important. I will not fill this letter with none-of-my-business-type of advice on how to treat a man I have known since I...
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To my overworked brother, I am writing this because I feel there is no better way to get across my opinion about your current predicament than to lay it all out for you to see. Our family has long known that you have been unhappy in your job, but you have our dad's work ethic and seem reluctant to leave a job that has affected not only your relationships but also your lifestyle. Of course most jobs are time consuming but you seem to have fallen into a job that demands an insane amount of your time and when you aren't working you are traveling too and from work all across the country. Not only does this give you no personal time but it also prevents you from forming friendships and even staying in touch with your loved ones. It saddens us to talk to you about it because when we do...
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Dear married couples, I write this open letter in a bid to help those who may be in a similar situation to one that I was in. That situation is of dealing with a marriage that is going through tough times...in fact this advice spans past marriages and into all relationships! Let me begin by explaining. My wife and I have been together for 9 years (6 of them as a married couple), we do not claim to be the perfect couple, of course we argue about the things that everyone else does but we are also fairly laid back. So you could imagine my wife's growing distress when these petty and regular arguments about unpaid bills and messy rooms etc became a lot more like direct criticisms at her character. It wasn't that I didn't love my wife I just found myself becoming more and more...
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To people afraid to be alone, With another Valentine’s Day well and truly over, it’s time to share that I am okay with being single. No I’m not one of those people who despise the idea of a relationship, but rather I am content with being by myself when it is called for, rather than putting myself in a situation where I am in a relationship with someone for the sake of it. It is pretty surprising to me just how many people find themselves doing the daily cycle of a relationship just because it becomes a habit, rather than because they love the person and want to be with them. It has happened for as long as I can remember! Back when I was at school I would see couples in my year either always arguing or sitting there with nothing to say to one another…of course they stayed together...
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