Bear with us. It's not that we don't want to give love and receive love in return. It's more that we're afraid to give someone the power to break our hearts into a million pieces.
When you are a child of divorce love and relationships mean something totally different than your peers. We've seen how every "I Love You" can turn in the blink of an eye into "I Hate You" and relationships torn apart.
It's difficult for us to use those 3 little words because we know what they can turn into and we have seen it first hand. We understand the full weight of those words and it may take us a long time to say them to you. When we do though, trust that we mean it. We wouldn't be saying it to you if we didn't know in every fiber of our being that we are truly, madly in love with you.
We try to get close to people and open our hearts but there will always be that wall that never comes down. We guard our hearts like a princess in a castle. Don't take it personally, it's not your fault. We have a hard time even letting our friends in. Yes even the closest of friends will never be able to tear down that wall. It's not that this wall will prevent anyone to come in, it's more for protecting our hearts which are very fragile creatures. Please try to understand why it was built in the first time and don't try to knock it down. When we feel that we truly can trust you not to repeat our past the wall will shrink and our heart will finally be yours.
To those that love a child of divorce we thank you for being there for us. Relationships for anyone don't come easy for anyone but they get harder when you are a child of divorce. Please be patient with us and let us know that we can trust you. For us that is the biggest part of a relationship. If we feel that we can trust you then we will gladly hand over our battered and bruised hearts that are in great need of mending. We have the ability within us to love deeply, we just need your help to coax it out of us slowly.
When you love a child of divorce love and relationships mean something very different to us. Bear with us, we are working on taking down the walls around our hearts.
