I've been wondering the real feeling of being a parent. What i truly see nowadays that parents all over the world especially the Asians have always been competing their children's success. I think that's so sick. Parents are the one determining their children's future. And that's also sick. You must do that, be that, you must not do that, that's forbidden,i want you to be that because I've always wanted to be that, that's my ambition for such a very long time, you have to get A for that subject, you must not make me embarrassed and the list goes on and on. Why? I don't understand. Is it inheritance? Do our parents inherited those traits from the parents before them? So what's the purpose of living if you keeps on obeying things your parents want you to do? We keeps on obeying, neglecting what's important for us. What's the best for us. I'm not asking you to be insolent but think. For once in your life have you ever felt so mad, like a real kind of mad which is infested with disgust and hatred? Yes i do have that kind of feeling. I always wonder whether or not my parents are proud of me. I think I've done my best. Sometimes the very best. But they still compare and somewhat being ungrateful for what their children have given. "why can't you score that subject? Why can your cousin excel in that subject? My friend's daughter got a 4.00 for her final, why can her and why can't you? Your cousins will be studying abroad, i was wondering when will my daughters do so?" bla bla and bla. I've been enduring this things for such a very long time. No, not just me. Most of Asians especially the ones with highly educated family background whom their parents obtained a degree as the lowest mark of education kasta. These kinds of parents, being on top is everything. Having a smart kid, pursue medicine or any highly acclaimed- respected-famous courses, studying overseas or even a handsome payment job are the things these kinds of parents have been aftering for. Like a mad herring. The ones depressed will always be children. Parents are expecting more and more sometimes it exceeded abilities and capabilities. All they think about is pride. "if you get this i will be so proud of you" with just that, you're putting a huge burden to your children. We want to make you feel happy and proud but help us. Understand us. Feel the burden place on our shoulders. Guide us. We're not capable of doing all the things you want us to do alone. After you've finally understand us, you yourself will see that we don't have that much of capabilities. I knew and we knew that you guys only want what's best for us. To have bright futures ahead. You don't want us to feel what you've felt, all the hardships and days of not having any money to eat, to live, to support and to socialise. We understand. But know this, there's this thing called fate. Just remember every time you push someone beyond their limitations and they always ended up failing, it's their fate for not having luck and victory in life. Not all people are granted with blessing in lives. Don't label them as stupid, not worthy because they didn't choose to have such a bad luck. Dear parents, know this. We all have tried our best. What comes after that is all God's plans. If he didn't allow it to happen it never will happen no matter how hard you try. Remember that non of us have never tried to work ourselves out of failure, even if it's the smallest kind of hard work, we have at least tried but it just didn't work out. For some who did work out, you're among the fortunate and you should be grateful and the parents must also be really grateful, not questioning why are there people topping your sons or daughters and why couldn't they be like them. Just be grateful and stop competing. Your child's life is not a war zone. Their life is theirs you as parents only help them, guide them and lead them to a better path not you're the one moulding and being the one to decide what's best for your children. This is just something that I've been pondering for so long and needed to be thrown out. Just take some time alone and think about it. Think of what you want and what you really need and not what your parents need because whether they like it or not, you are the one that's going to brace few decades of life as yourself and not your parents. They're not you and don't let them be you. The lives that they have always wanted are far left behind and there's nothing they can do to make amend to those lives they had left. And to the community (the negative, stupid, annoying) community you are the reason to why our parents are like that, all the aunts who never care to shut up and all the parents' friends who never want to fuck off i think it's time for you to shut up, live your own fucking life, brag about your own fucking life alone, piss off and just i don't know, live us alone. And with that i think everyone will be happy.
