It’s ok.
It’s ok to talk about your dad, love your dad, flaunt your dad. Those of us who no longer have that blessing have to be able to adjust to this new life that God has given us. Yes, we may be breaking deep down inside but we are so happy that you still have your daddy. Believe us, we don't want you to ever feel this pain.
Ask.
Ask about our dads, don't walk around it. We want to remember his life through our own. Ask what happened. It’s ok, sometimes explaining it helps us cope with it a little more, helps us try to believe it is true a little more. No, we will never fully accept it…that is normal. Just do those of us with no dad a favor…treat your dad with respect, honesty, love, and compassion. We would do anything to change certain things we did while they were still with us.
Remember.
Remember the days that will hit home, the days that feel like the world is black and white and your eyes hurt from crying. Remember it is not just about our dads and the funeral. It is so much more. It is our mothers, our siblings and daily living that has just been broken and taking from us. Remember that things around us are changed each and everyday for the rest of our lives. Remember that life through our eyes is so much different now. We see situations differently and maybe that is our blessing?
Love.
Love us a little extra. We need it a little extra, especially on our “bad” days. Bad days come without any warning. Nothing triggers them, they just happens without a reason or any kind of timing at all.
Let us be in Sorrow.
It may seem like a year ago to you, 15 years, 60 years but to us it seems like yesterday but yet years ago all at the same time. We have this new life to live and we don’t have a choice to live it or not, we just do it. Day by day, we become the strongest people.
Be Patient.
Be Kind.
Hold Us Tight.
Wipe Our Tears.
Let Us Scream.
LOVE US.
We Love You and Your Fathers.
IT'S OK.
