Heartbreak. It sucks right? Recently I got my own dose of it that I never saw coming in a million years. When my five and a half year relationship ended I was left with empty dreams, a broken engagement, and a wedding dress hanging in my closet. I kept replaying scenarios in my head over and over thinking of different things I could have done to try and save the relationship. Maybe that is where you are at now. Maybe you're kicking yourself, blaming yourself, doubting your worth, wondering what was the point of it all. Stop. I know more than anyone how bad it hurts, I won't sugar coat that. I don't know you, but I hate this for you. I hate that you're hurting like I did. I hate that a stupid boy failed to see your true value. But at the same time, I'm so happy for you.
You see, a broken heart as painful as it is, can really be a gift. Typically we think a gift is something that we are gaining. I've come to realize one of the greatest gifts God could have ever given me, is to take something away that wasn't His best. I don't know the specifics of your situation, and nothing is ever 100% the other persons fault, but I want you to know you deserve more than what he was giving you.
You deserve more than a boy who won't stick up for you.
You deserve more than a boy who cares more about his Instagram and Youtube page than how your day was.
You deserve more than a boy who will put going to the gym above going to church with you.
You deserve more than a boy who will hold grudges over your head, instead of forgiving you.
You deserve more than a boy who thinks sending a few texts and snaps is sufficient communication for the day.
But here is what you do deserve.
You deserve a man who sees your flaws, your past hurt, your imperfections, and loves you all the more.
You deserve a man who pursues God first, and will pull you towards Him, not away.
You deserve a man who will never stop fighting for you, because he can't imagine his life without you in it.
You deserve a man who will respect your body, and treat it like the treasure it is.
You deserve a man who knows you are the daughter of the King, and treats you like the princess you are. Valuable. Cherished. Priceless. Loved.
I know these words will not take away the pain you feel now, but I can tell you it won't last forever. Just promise me one thing: don't settle, don't settle, don't settle. I almost did, and the thought alone scares me to death. I challenge you, in your next relationship make sure it is where you are suppose to be. If it isn't God's best, get out as fast as you can. Fight for love, and trust in the One who made you to work everything, even this heartbreak, for His glory and your good.
