SOCIAL MEDIA
How it destroyed my life!!!
Facebook the social media for all, founded in 2004 by Mark Zuckerberg and fellow Harvard college students, although it on went out to the public in 2006. To anyone of the age 13 and older and if you have a valid email address that is.
Oh the hype awesome social media in Africa, great meet old school friends, colleagues from yesteryear. This is just what I need, haven't seen so many people in so many year. So as we all did joining was not an option but a necessity all the how you doing? its been years, how many children have you got, you married, so on and so fourth. You build up your relationship with your old pals, now you can actually see what they are up to all the time with just a click of a button and voila your on there home page! Scrutinizing everything they do adding your comments and smiley face!
Roll on the years and most of us got in touch, having good laughs and sharing our lives, even got our husbands to join in so we could see there past, in 2009 a friend messaged me and asked how I'm doing and that he misses me! Well that was a no,no in my book cause I'm happily married, so I ignored it and carried on as normal.
On a beautiful sunny November day 2014, I got a message from a old friend asking how I am, so I replied thinking nothing of it and oh my how wrong I was, it started out very innocently, all about Art work that we both have in common, jokes, our family's, old school days cause they were rather funny, with us coming out of the 80's, all that wild hair, shoulder padded clothing, and who can forget Madonna.
As the days went by and the conversation turn more serious, you start getting excited to hear from this person and what they have been up too, during the day and so it starts an "Internet lesion" it goes from how you doing, too I've missed you today! You've been on my mind, I couldn't get any of my work done at the office. I see you've been busy on Facebook today who've you been chatting to? So to avoid an argument it start with how I'd love to kiss you right now, the mood changes and it's all about sex, very explicit sex texting the type of stuff that would make "Fifty Shades of grey" turn red.
The days turn into nights cause that was easier for both of us, bearing in mind that this person lives in Europe, so the time difference was 2 Hours. Our late night session didn't always revolve around sex,it was the company, we kept, the books we read, world affairs, the current state of the economy, him being without work again the man could just not hold down a job! Defiantly not the type of man I would ever get involved with for real, he being unhappy in his marriage with his wife's nagging all the time and her bad eyesight that landed her in hospital for a couple of surgerys. I started to feel guilty that poor woman, my husband what are we doing! My own Husband sitting obliviously in the room with me, talking about his day. I'm really a awful person the darling of a man that I've hurt so badly.
But it didn't stop, we couldn't stop the "GAME" had gone to far!
The lies that were told from both of us, to our spouse the hiding of iPads, phones just so shameful. So the months moved on 7 months to be exact! And in those months we got very used to one another, the lies we were telling each other didn't seem to matter. I think it was just an escape from our normal lives with a serious twist!
We got to talk to each other over the phone via Facebook messenger that was very interesting, became wizards of the Internet "so I thought" moved between Facebook, Pinterest, and messenger. Never through normal telecommunications, cause we'd get caught.
As time went by we lost our sense of being, and the relationship died down that was in June 2015. But it was now that my life turned sour my Husband had his birthday in that month. Was a lovely evening with people, cake and laughter. On the night of 18th of June my Husband came home all hell exploded in the house, I'd been caught out my Facebook account had been exposed, the horror tried denial, to all of it but my husband would have non of that, and rightfully so, he'd been hurt by the person he loved the most. He had all the evidence he had gone through my iPad. He call this so called friend of mine and he squealed like a school girl, no sense of loyalty what so ever! The game was up my husband asked me to leave the family home which I did, but returned again after he had come fetched me from my family.
The months after the "GAME" my husband and I ended up booking a trip to Maurice's I was so glad to be back with him again but the fighting was getting out of control! I felt miserable to the point where I just wanted to crawl into a corner and die, the constant asking why? I don't really have an answer to that, it was a game, maybe boredom, curiosity ? But defiantly something that should not have happen! As the days went by we got in contact again on Pinterest, I had not deleted my account nor had he! The message were not explicit at all mainly about art, and how we missed talking to each other. We had just become old friends that is what we were meant to be, no infatuation, no lust, no feeling. My Husband found out that we/I was still talking to this man and its hurt him more than anything I've done before, we had just got our lives kind of sorted out. Honestly I do really love my husband and always will no matter what happen.
Sad really I used to love social media, I now loathe it! All my own doing you play with fire you get burnt!!!!
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