Jealousy. That's something certain people consider normal, if not necessary to a relationship.
"If she cares about you, she will be jealous." When I truly care about someone I want their happiness more than even my own. If he would rather be with someone else, so be it, I hope he's happy with her.
"If she isn't jealous, she's cheating." Okay, okay. I realize that girls that have a "side-bae" or two may feel more detached from your relationship, making it easier for them to let it slide when another girl talks to you. However, that's not the only kind of girl that won't get jealous easily. Do you really think that there are NO girls with an inherent ability to trust and let someone in?
"You're letting him talk to his ex?!" You say that as if I, as a girlfriend, have any right to ban him from doing anything. If I was sincerely uncomfortable with him talking to his ex, I can assure you we already had a conversation about it.
"If she's not jealous, she's not into you." What about trust? I will trust the man I'm with. I would rather be fooled by someone I love without inhibitions, than to constantly be fearful of him betraying me.
No trust, no relationship, and when I can't trust the man I'm with that's where I'll end it. If I'm dating a guy I'm not going to keep him on a leash, if he really wants to cheat he will-no matter how short that leash is. The man I want to be with will, by his own volition, stay faithful to me. I don't want to spend my life with someone I have to prevent from cheating with my actions.
I will treat whomever I am dating with love, kindness, compassion. I will make them laugh, challenge them, encourage them, comfort them on a bad day, do little things like buy them toilet paper on the way home after I realize they're running out, serenade them, watch their favourite movie with them twenty times, cuddle them, and seduce them. If that doesn't make them stay loyal, then I don't want them anyway.
