An Open Letter to My Best Friend Who's Going Through a Tough Breakup

Subject: An Open Letter to My Best Friend Who's Going Through a Tough Breakup
From: Your Best Friend Who's Rooting for You
Date: 5 Jan 2016

To my Best Friend Who’s Going Through a Breakup,

First off, you are beautiful and amazing. Secondly, I am so sorry. I am so sorry that you’re hurting. I am so sorry that you’ve spent so many nights crying alone in your room. I’m so sorry that someone hurt you like this. I am so sorry that I couldn’t protect you from this pain. Since third grade we’ve been inseparable and I’ve gone through every awful and hilarious phase with you. I’ve seen us riding high and I’ve seen us very low. I’ve seen you kickin’ ass and takin’ names, and I’ve seen you with an empty and blank space in your eyes for days at a time. While everything has been changing for us, I’ve seen you do one thing over and over and over again. Persevere. I know this is hard and I know that you wish you could crawl into a hole and never see the light of day again. But you can’t do that. To do that would defy all the laws of nature and every single part of who you are as a person. You’re a fighter. You’re strong and you will get through this.

You told me, as you cried, that he made you feel like you weren’t worth fighting for. And I’d like to let you know that if I ever see his stupid face again I will fight like hell for you. How dare he make you feel like you deserve anything less than the utmost respect. How dare he make you feel worthless. How dare he put you down. He is a fool and you will find someone so much better. He is a coward and you are stronger than he is. He ran away and hid from struggle while you took all the blows. He had problems and somehow made you feel like they were your fault. He is childish and you will grow from this. You did everything that you could as a girlfriend to help him but at some point you just had to let go. You made the right decision. You’re studying to be a nurse so that you can help people and I know that it’s hard for you to stop for a minute and just help yourself.

You are so strong. I know this because I’ve been there for all of your breakups. I know that it’s hard to move on from someone who you planned your life with. I’m not going to lie to you and say that this is going to be easy because it’s not. Mostly likely things will keep sucking for a few more months but that doesn’t mean that you are worthless. That doesn’t mean that your life is over. That doesn’t mean that you failed. That absolutely doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person.

Let me tell you right now that you are worth it. You are worth every struggle, every tear, every fight, every single damn day. You are so uplifting and inspiring. You are beautiful and kind. You deserve a someone who will love you day and night, who will praise your successes and appreciate your work. You will find someone who makes you feel whole and would never do anything to make you feel less than 110% about yourself. You have no reason to be putting the blame on yourself. You said that you needed confirmation that you did the right thing. Well no one knows you better than I do so let me tell you, you made a decision that was hard but necessary. He was holding you back and now you’re free. Free to focus on yourself for once. Free to only think about how to build yourself up and how to make yourself stronger than you already are.

At this point it doesn’t matter whose fault the breakup was. It doesn’t matter if your parents are mad because they really loved him too. It doesn’t matter who said what and who made mistakes. It doesn’t matter who fought harder or who used meaner names. It doesn’t matter. It happened and it hurts. It hurts like hell. But you are the smartest and most hardworking woman that I know. You are an ass kicking, life saving, world changing machine and I am your biggest fan. I am so incredibly proud of how far you’ve come and I can’t stand to see you slipping backward. Put this pain beneath your feet and rise up from it. I am rooting for you!

To conclude, I love you so much. You are so amazing and I am here for you no matter what. I know that I’m not always physically by your side but you’re never alone.

Just remember. You made the right decision. You are strong. And you are worth it.


Your Best Friend Who’s Rooting for You