Dear, best friends: going through hard times,
What do you believe the definition of a true friend is? Regardless of whether it is someone you can trust with your most private information or personal possessions, someone who would risk their life to save yours, or someone you've known your entire life. Each person has a different idea of what "real friendship" is. True friendship, in my opinion, is when two people can rely on one another with just about everything; they allow you to succeed and fail on your own, but they always lend a hand when it matters the most. I find it objectionable when individuals claim that a true friend won't allow you to steal their work for a test or a more significant project. This exemplifies that they do not regard the other person as a friend, but rather as a get out of jail free card.
Friendships aren’t easy. Most friendships often come with lots of responsibilities, such as keeping secrets, talking them out of naive situations they might want to put themselves in, defending them, and above all having loyalty towards them. Loyalty is the foundation of a friendship, it is what will determine whether your friendship with this person will last or not. Very rarely a friendship/person can turn into your soulmate, your best friend, someone you consider family. As many happy times as you may have had or will have, you must remember that in lasting friendships there will also be difficult times, periods when you may bicker or fight, and times when you may fear losing this person. However, you have to keep fighting for them, and not let a silly argument get in the way of what you guys have created. Oftentimes i have found myself in this position, in a position which i feel like i may lose my person. The fear is so great you start to think more and do less.
Friendship is an applied term associated with emotion. A friendship is built on enjoyment, obstacles, and necessity. The distinction between the words “friendship” and “friend” has become increasingly blurred as they have been stretched over time. They have lost a lot of their meaning and make it difficult to dig a bit deeper into what it means to be a friend - without only scratching the surface - because friendships are intricate. Friendship and the simple bond between two people have ceased to be the easy and uncomplicated factor that they once were. I myself can say my own friendships became more difficult and complex as I grew older.
One day you may well find yourself staring out into the ceiling, beige colored wall, yellow sun flowers, red roses, and the blue sky covered with beautiful white clouds. In these moments you feel the wind, you feel the sun, you feel everything humanly possible. For good or for bad it helps you think, and enjoy the world around us. In these precious moments we think about everything we love, including our best friends specifically.
Many friends are "dear" to us, but what defines a best friend? As we age, we lose our sense of simplicity in relationships and the pleasurable things that are at the center of our lives. I'm here to ask why, why would we abandon our best friends? Each time, after I have an argument with my best friend, I think long and hard, and I write a letter to them. A letter in which I remind them and myself of everything we’ve been through, and all the love and appreciativeness I have towards them. I don't ever send this letter but, it helps me express my emotions, and let out how I feel. In this case I would like to share one of them with you to show you the importance of friends turning into family, and the importance of trying.
‘’You may be mad at me right now, and I know we don't talk much like we did before but I would like you to know that you are a fundamental part of my life. Although, we may not be blood related, and we may not know eachother since we were babies. I feel a strong connection with you, I care for you as if you were the brother I never had. I feel for you when you hurt, and I love you like a brother. People around us may not understand why we care for eachother, and even so, how we are still friends, but I think you know, and to me that's all that matters. You have been there for me when I needed a friend, you have always told me the truth and never lied to me, you have been there when I needed someone. My point is you have been there when no one else has, you see past my lies and you know me probably better than anyone. This is why I love you, truly like a brother, I would give my life for you like I would for a brother. These 5 years that you have given me friendship have been amazing, i like that i can always ask you naive questions and you answer them. I like how I can tell you about anything without feeling any judgment. You are the reason I still believe in friendship, you push me to believe. Every time i have felt I had no one, I could think of you and I would remember I am not alone, because I have my bestfriend. This is why I write this letter to thank you, for helping me believe, although you may not realize it you have. I can't quite figure out why you are such a fundamental part of my life but you are. You cared and asked for me when I was going through rough times, and I would like to do the same for you and more.
One person can change everything, and you have changed everything for me, you are my best friend, so please let me motivate you to believe in yourself, because you are worth so much and i don't think you even realize it. I would like to push you even when you think you don't need it. I think you deserve the world, yet somehow I don’t think you always see that. I often find my own self wondering what I did to deserve you. You taught me the definition of true friendship, and I wouldn’t be able to survive without having you in my life. You come into people’s lives with a purpose and you change them. You make every single person around you better, without even realizing it. You’re the person that someone can only live without, if they’ve never lived with them before. You light up every room, and lift up every single person around you. People need you. Because you’ll hold them while they cry, and then be ready to beat down the person that made them cry ten minutes later. You’ll make them laugh like no one can even when they’re sad and clear teardrops are falling from their face. You’ll forgive them for what they said when they were mad. You believe in them even when they don’t believe in themselves. You’re there for them even when they haven’t always been there for you. And you care for them before you even care for yourself. You get to know them down to their very core, even when they’re hard to get to know. Love isn’t an option for you. It’s just who you are and it makes you the most beautiful soul I have ever known. But you’re not only what everyone else around you needs. You’re all that you need. You are so much stronger than you have even begun to realize. You’re honest and caring. You’re hilarious and intelligent. You’re strong and compassionate. You are everything a person should be and more. You change people, but you don’t let people change you. And don’t ever let them. Never let any single person come into your life and make you believe that you ever have to be more of anything because you’re already more than all of us combined. And I know you will never see yourself in the way that I have written here, but just know that I see it in you every single day. It’s why you deserve the world. Because you change it.’’
By writing heartfelt letters like this one I am able express my emotions, it helps me to Remember why keeping my friendship with this person is important to me. I am also able to show I care about the person, the friendship, and everything that they do. Everyone can see how emotions play an important role in our lives. So please all the best friends going through rough patches, reflect, and think most of us are in our rebellious years and show a lot of emotions when arguing. But instead of doing that, I offer you this piece of advice given by Mandy Hale: “True friends are those who came into your life, saw the most negative part of you, but are not ready to leave you…”.
I encourage you to do the same as me, write your feelings out, in the moment you don't need it to be perfect, it just has to be heartfelt. You don't even have to send it out, all you have to do is keep it and know that if there comes a point in your friendship where things get hard and you think you might lose this person, you have those letters to give to them as a sign that you care. This way they will see how much you love them without you having to tell them that through a message, phone call in person. Since most people find that hard to do. They may also appreciate this more since it is handwritten and unique a letter designed to be for them. You might even leave them in tears of happiness and joy, which is a good sign because it will mean that they liked it and they enjoyed reading it. Friendships can be a difficult type of relationship at times, which is why it is critical that we reflect on them. This ensures that they will not deteriorate as a result of the stresses of everyday life.
I know many people, especially teenagers, always think that fighting for a friendship is
not worth it, or will even be appreciated, but I assure you that it is worth fighting for especially when you love that person. Look at the person as whole, think about your feelings and decide, will you give up now? Or will you fight? How do you want people to see you and how do you want to see yourself? These questions run through their minds making it difficult for them to answer. The mind can be very complex since the brain progresses to grow. Thoughts change as well as the person. Making general ideas and ideas of friendship much more difficult, especially knowing who to trust and who not to trust.
I know many people, especially teenagers, always think that fighting for a friendship is not worth it, or will even be appreciated, but I assure you that it is worth fighting for especially when you love that person. Look at the person as whole, think about your feelings and decide, will you give up now? Or will you fight? How do you want people to see you and how do you want to see yourself? These questions run through their minds making it difficult for them to answer. The mind can be very complex since the brain progresses to grow. Thoughts change as well as the person. Making general ideas and ideas of friendship much more difficult, especially knowing who to trust and who not to trust.
During this period teenagers are growing as well as learning and friendships continue to be something very difficult. They carry either toxic energy or carry a very beautiful friendship that will be forever cherished. But in order to not destroy such a beautiful friendship, due to lack of maturity, write. Write letters, let your emotions out and express yourself, you won't feel the relief of doing this till you do it, and experience it yourself. The joy and comprehension, and the happiness of finally knowing what to do after is so amazing. It makes you feel powerful, like you have all the solutions and all the words, finally to understand and to talk to your best friend.
Remember that a friendship is a happy place, similar to the image of a home. Think about how after a long day, you finally arrive home, take off your shoes, relax, and take a deep breath while whispering, "Ahhh, home.'' This is a similar feeling to when you hang out with your best friend. There are aspects of life that everyone desires, and the majority of them comprise a deep friendship, such as trust, empathy, loyalty, and support. There's a lot to say about friendships. They provide the opportunity to discover new interests and expand on old ones while providing support during difficult times.
It's true that in your life, friends will come and go. The most crucial factor, regardless of how long your friendships last, is that your friends accept you for who you are. A dear friend acts in accordance with their words and demonstrates their concern through all of their deeds. In light of this, I hereby urge you to never give up on your friends, especially when you know they are worthy of your effort. Instead, find a method to show them that you care, regardless of how it may appear to others or how frightened you may feel. Because you ought to reciprocate if this person loves you and makes an effort to show you that they care. Show them that you care.
So that in future years, you may look back and be happy whether you were able to keep them as a friend or not, at least you'll know you did everything in your power to show them you care, more than they thought you did. Show them before it's too late and you find yourself sitting in the middle of your bed, legs crossed, looking up at the ceiling, late at night, crying by yourself thinking of everything you did wrong, and everything you could have done right. Appreciate every moment with your friends because you never know what will happen. So let them know you care, and most importantly let them know you love them with all your heart. However, always be watchful and do what's best for your interest mentally and physically. Know all will be fixed and that there isn't a single thing no one can go through. The best friendships are formed in small steps that require people to roll up their sleeves and do a little bit of work. People frequently underestimate the value of friendships, but they are strongly related to life satisfaction.
An Open Letter to Best friends: Going through hard times
Dear, best friends: going through hard times,