25/11/2016
Dear ...,
I just got home from work and as I sit here at 11.15pm waiting for you to start your midnight crashing, I decided to tell the world about your noise and selfishness through an open letter on the internet, because I am tired of suffering you and your immature and childish selfishness.
Living here with your noise and your lack of responsibility for your noise and a very shallow and pathetic attempt to say it is all in my head has been living hell for me, I wish you would grow up a bit and take responsibility for yourself, I think of you as a whiney child and can't see you as an adult while you behave like this. So maybe I should structure this in a way that a child can understand.
Noise that disturbs other people is wrong, it is abuse and it is harassment. Keeping up that noise or increasing it or denying it when you are aware of the impact is immature and childish and selfish. If you want to be seen as an adult, start behaving like one.
When I moved in here I tolerated your noise and being kept awake for about a month, I think, until it began to wear me down, and after your usual late night crashing and talking with you friend, you decided to hoover your flat late at night and I was ill because I hadn't slept properly for a month.
That was the limit, and that is when I first contacted the landlord and asked for something to be done, after a month of enduring this noise. Was it all in my head that you made excuses then? My work had been disrupted for a month by then.
The landlord said he would throw you out, but interestingly he didn't, which didn't speak well for him, nor has the fact that he has stood by and let me endure this noise.
Was it all in my head that you tried to explain away when I first complained? Hoovering late at night after your crashing and loud conversation with your friend? No.
Was it all in my head that the landlord told me that previous tenants had complained about your noise? No. And judging by the succession of tenants who have been in my flat, the last one only for a few weeks, I doubt that the noise can be in my head or my problem, unless you also diagnosed the other tenants as mad too? Are you in any way qualified to make a diagnosis of anyone?
Interesting subject isn't it? The only noise in my head is tinnitus which is being made very bad by the fact that I am forced to wear earplugs against medical advice because of your noise. Do you really think anyone would deliberately make themselves ill like that for no reason?!
Lets talk about your comment that I 'need to see someone'. Only a child in the school playground, a bully, or someone very narrow and ignorant ever makes a comment like that.
It is horrifying that even in this day and age that someone can try to use a comment like that in an argument, a bit like calling someone autistic 'retarded', that kind of stuff is from the 1800s.
Anyone in this day and age who behaves like that lets themselves down.
And it is tempting to judge you by your psychopathic lack of responsibility for yourself and your noise and make the same comment about you, especially as you are considered locally to be strange.
But who would want to be normal and uniform, please do go on being strange, just stop making the noise.
Let me just talk about me 'seeing someone'. Due to the level of severe and complex abuse I have suffered, I have paid to see a good senior clinical psychologist, who carried out a very detailed report into my psychological makeup. He specialized in trauma and it's effects and I chose him because of that. Trying to use mental illness as an excuse against someone or a stigma as you just did is completely unacceptable especially as you obviously suffer mental illness yourself.
My psychologist certainly didn't diagnose me with any serious mental illness, neither has any other assessment carried out as necessary because of the abuse I have suffered. I am diagnosed as suffering severe and complex PTSD. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. This is not in any way a psychotic illness, it is a condition caused by trauma, it includes distress at loud or unexpected noise.
And having an immature and selfish neighbour like you is not just making me ill by affecting my sleep but is also worsening the Post Traumatic Stress, the last thing I want is to be kept awake or woken up by you crashing in in the middle of the night. It makes me ill. Me 'Seeing someone' won't change that or make you grow up and behave responsibly, so let's rule that solution out and just see if you can stop making so much noise until I can find a flat in a working house, where there aren't benefits claimants who stay up and make noise at night.
I have told the landlord and I stand by this, that I don't have choice but to find a new home, but work and university and other comittments and the fact that I am ill from enduring your noise means that I can't move overnight or with any ease.
Unfortunately I can't show you my psychological report for legal reasons and because it is grim and harrowing reading for anyone, but I am tempted to show it to the landlord who is allowing you to behave like this. Indeed if this effort to discredit me as mad because of your antisocial behaviour continues, I may do so.
Don't ever infer that someone is mad rather than take responsibility for yourself, that is the trick of psychopaths, paedophiles and bullies, it is a tactic that was frequently used against vulnerable orphans and care home children for decades by high profile priests and politicians to cover up for their abuse, it is a cowardly and completely soulless way of behaving, and how do I know so much about it? I was a victim and you remind me of my abusers.
The crashing isn't the floorboards, I have no idea how or why you are making that noise apart from when you slam the front door and thunder up the stairs with no consideration for others, but it is you, unless you are sub-letting your flat to some other immature selfish person.
The floorboards are the landlord's responsibility but what I don't understand is why you appear to be walking round and round and round and round for hours on end on the noisy floorboards, to me, that would appear to mean that you 'need to see someone', because you come across as profoundly disturbed.
Only I don't want to infer anything or listen to the gossip that goes on outside the front of the house or in the wee shop downstairs most weekdays. If ever you get tired of crashing and need a new hobby, just have a listen to the old women and their gossip. It's hilarious and you can hear the news of everyone in Ventnor and Shanklin and beyond.
I doubt very much that anyone else is doing that walking around in your flat, unless you have children playing, children are lively and active but this isn't a family house so you shouldn't have children living with you, and certainly no-one else is slamming the front door and thundering up to your flat in the middle of the night and crashing around in the early hours.
So you are making the noise, and if you have been told how badly it is affecting me, why don't you stop? Why don't you come in at a reasonable hour and keep the noise down at night? You have been asked enough times.
The earplugs mute your incessant walking around but not the crashing. But I shouldn't be wearing earplugs, and having to wear earplugs is making me ill. But obviously because the noise is all in your head, you want me to be responsible for it and you want to go on being an immature selfish little boy, which I will stand and call you to your face repeatedly and without fear, because, especially after your comments today, that is what you are.
You should try living with the impact of your noise, you can't make it not be real because you say so, I have to live with it and I can assure you, you are making a noise, I am the one having to live with it, it doesn't affect you, it affects me.
Last night you crashed in at midnight again and I was woken and barely got any sleep before I had to be up. My work starts at 8.30 some miles away and thus to get ready for work and get there, I have to be up early, your crashing not only left me exhausted before work started but also made it hard for me to get up and prepare for work, and I left without any packed lunch.
I worked hard, hard physical work on the estate, it is a lot of ground for three people to cover, and I had no lunch, but I thought that I would cook myself a nice chicken and rice supper when I got home from that work if I was quick.
I got home with enough time for a shower and change and to make supper and maybe a sit and rest for a little while before I went back out to work an evening shift until 11pm. 8.30am to 11pm at work is a long day, and one of the reasons I work and don't come home is because I dread being here because of you.
You took away my supper with your whining. You took away my rest, and you did it because you wanted to behave like a little boy and whine and accuse. I went back to work distressed and hungry and with my hair still wet from the shower and with everything in disarray.
I wasn't speaking to you when you started whining, I spoke to myself about what bad luck it was that I had come home for a break and you had turned up at the same time and would start crashing. And it was bad luck and you did ruin my break. And as a result I had to go to work again without having eaten.
If someone isn't speaking to you or you don't like what they say, try to be mature and get on with your own life and mind your own business. Whining about how hard done by you are because you stay up all night and make a noise because you don't have to work and how you want me to be responsible for your noise is completely unnecessary, if you don't want me to be angry with you then just shut up at night and let me sleep. Permanently and not just briefly when the landlord is forced to remind you.
I get angry when you have gone on making a noise for hours on end and prevented me from sleeping or relaxing and watching television. It is disgusting that you won't even let me have a break and watch something on television in peace or get a good night's sleep and you think you have something to whine about. You claim I am being abusive for reacting to the severe stress you cause with your noise, what you have done to me and previous tenants in your selfishness is abuse, GROW UP! This is not a children's home, start behaving like an adult.
You made some very strange comment about being a mature presentable 'freelancer', what? What kind of person makes such strange comments about themselves? You aren't mature, take responsibility for your late night noise and stop whining, then call yourself mature, presentable? The neighbours call you strange, what does presentable mean?
And freelance? Freelance what? Someone who crashes about all night isn't working, and as you are on benefits, have you let the council know that you are working?! I get the post in and the letter window says 'regarding your claim', what, the claim that you are working?!
Trying to be aggressive because I called you immature and selfish made you look even more like a little boy throwing a trantrum. It is no good trying to stand over me and shout, I have beaten a real man in a fight and I am not and never will be afraid of a child like you. Stop whining and throwing tantrums, just grow up and stop keeping me awake at night with your noise. I work, you don't, and you should, and trying to make me out to be imagining things is very out of date and manipulative and immature.
If you get yourself a job, even a volunteer job, ask at the jobcentre when you sign on, for a volunteer role that will keep you occupied all day, and then come home and see what it is like after a day of real work, you will need to rest and relax, would you like someone crashing about and keeping you awake? I am betting you wouldn't.
Don't come whining at me, I have dealt with real men, rapists, murderers, violent men, I have a scar from hitting a knife out of a man's hand, and you will never intimidate me, all you have done is make me ill and that is all you will do before I leave, I will never be afraid or you, your tantrum this evening was laughable even if it cost me my supper.
I pity the tenants you forced out before and the ones who will have to endure you when I leave.
The landlord needs to stop making excuses and warn potential tenants about the noise nuisance.
I told you I would write a book about your noise, but to be honest you aren't worth a book, my experiences of your abuse will be incorporated into another book, and this letter will be included.
I hope not to hear from you again in any way, and I will treat you as human or an adult when you start behaving like one.
Best wishes,
