You say victims of rape are "asking for it."
Was I asking for it?
I was twelve years old, he was sixteen. I was wearing modest clothing, jeans and a t-shirt. I had NO IDEA what could happen.
I mean, I was just in the 7th grade. Was I young? Yes. Was I naive? Sure, don't doubt it. But was I asking for it? Hell. NO.
"But you liked him..." And that somehow magically gave him permission to force himself upon me? Yeah, no. "You went off with him though..." Yes, I did, but had I known what he was
planning, I never would have gone.
And yes, I said planning. You see, he had done this before (I didn't know at the time). Also, I would later find out,
he would do this again.
If you still think I was "asking for it," I want you think about this:
Was I asking for the PTSD that I would later be diagnosed with? Was I asking for the depression disorder and the anxiety?
Was I asking for the mistrust of any boyfriend I have had over the years? Was I asking for it when my family stopped trusting me? How about the fear I have of that guy trying to
find me? (By the way, he did, and he tried to friend me on Facebook...denied.) Was I asking for the shame that I carried for so long afterwards?
If you were wondering, the answer to all of those is NO!!
Yeah, I may have looked grown-up, but I was still a kid. Sure, my body was developing, but that doesn't give someone else the
right to it. A no is never a yes. It's not a maybe. It's not a negotiation. It's a no.
So, whenever you think another victim is "asking for it," THINK AGAIN!
