To "O" we went on two dates where you told me about how your awful ex girlfriend only wanted you for your money and sperm. You broke down as you told me that she wanted to have your baby but didn't want to marry you. I sat, I listened and I supported you. During the date, you asked me if I wanted to go on a date with you next week, I said yes. You didn't call.
To "S" we went on three very nice dates. There were no awkward silences, we had a lot to talk about and I thought we got on very well. On our last date,we made a plan to go to a restaurant a few nights later. You walked me to my car, holding my hand and kissed me on the cheek. You didn't call.
To "T" we met on a dating site, chatted on the phone for an hour before we met at a nice wine bar. We laughed and sang along to cheesy 80's songs. We had a really nice evening, which ended with a nice kiss. We met three more times. On many occasions, I told you how I only sleep with someone when we are monogamous. You said that you thought it was the right thing to do, as men lose interest after sex. After our fourth date we slept together. You lost interest and didn't call.
When you say that you will call and then don't, I wonder why. I sit and wait for the beep of an incoming text message. I sit and see that you are online, but the message doesn't come. I ask a friend to text me, in case my messaging app isn't working. Her message is delivered with no problems. I sit and think that you are an ass and not worth my time and I will not message you. After a few days of driving myself crazy thinking about why... I text you. It's midnight and I can't sleep because I don't understand what happened between making plans for a future date and driving away. You come back with a lame answer that doesn't tell me anything. I get angry and write something I regret in the morning.
I'm not a crazy person. I don't usually stalk people, checking when they are online. But this is what you have done to me. You have turned me in to the crazy chick, who texts angry messages.
I don't know why you do this. Is it that when you leave the date, you return home and continue to swipe left and right, continually looking for someone better?
What is the answer- to continue dating or not? I really don't know. But my advice to these guys is this.... If you have no intention of going on another date, don't say that you will. Don't take out your calendar and make plans. I have feelings, and I'm sick of you playing with them.
