It's twisted, in the least dramatic sense, I know- being so deeply and somehow, effortlessly spun into a "web" with someone who suffocates you, poisons you, cripples you, derails your value and self-worth- intoxicating you with their violent spews of hatred and repetitive cycles of pseudo tears and drunken apologies. The saddest part is that through the victim's relentless suffering, she continues to love him unconditionally, despite how unlovable he rapidly becomes. What the abuser may or may not realize, however, is that in their unjust means of hurting their victim(s), they are really hurting themselves much more. There is an old quote that reads: "those who need love the most ask for it in the most unloving ways." This explains the charismatic of an abuser to a tee. But the abuser...
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It's twisted, in the least dramatic sense, I know- being so deeply and somehow, effortlessly spun into a "web" with someone who suffocates you, poisons you, cripples you, derails your value and self-worth- intoxicating you with their violent spews of hatred and repetitive cycles of pseudo tears and drunken apologies. The saddest part is that through the victim's relentless suffering, she continues to love him unconditionally, despite how unlovable he rapidly becomes. What the abuser may or may not realize, however, is that in their unjust means of hurting their victim(s), they are really hurting themselves much more. There is an old quote that reads: "those who need love the most ask for it in the most unloving ways." This explains the charismatic of an abuser to a tee. But the abuser...
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You do not discriminate. You are neither loving or kind. To some you bring so much relief and to others you bring so much pain. You are looked to as a solution, but are often a means to a permanent end. You are the reason I will never see him again. Because of you the world has lost such an amazing human being. Because of you he never saw his little brother graduate from high school or help him move into college. Because of you he will never see him get married or meet his nieces or nephews. Because of you, we his family and friends fight everyday to keep his memory alive, and continue to leave his mark on the world because he no longer can.
Because of you my favorite shirt to wear says “in memory of” not because I actually like it, but because I can see his face for one more time....
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You are right my dreams of my marriage was not two already children and a ex wife that I would have to communicate with on a regular basis. But God had other plans. I met your children and became thier friend. I fell in love with them and started to think and treat them as my own. I never thought I could love two other children like my own child unconditionally. But I do.
Over time of this new family made I have watched your children reach out to you and you have not reciprocated. I have watched your daughter time over time seek one on one time with you even if it is staying home and doing each other nails or having a girls day in town.
I fill in and take her to get her toes done, hold her hand while she gets a shot or watch her fall apart and hold her. Even though it hurts because I...
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I miss you, and you'll never know. I still think about you and how we just stopped talking because I thought you didn't need me. But you look so happy now and me well I still can't look at all the photos we took and think about all our memories without falling apart. I hope your well and I can't seem to talk to you face to face or even text you even though I almost do. "Our songs" we had come on and all I remember is the day of your Halloween party lying in the street and reenacting the notebook scene. When I go to six flags I think about the roller coaster I forced you on to help you get over your fear. I still think about the day we spent at the water park and me losing my iPod touch and how you were more freaked out then I was. I still make my bed and put all the stuff animals you won...
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I will start with the obvious piece of advice….you will never truly get over this feeling. It will hurt every day for the rest of your life. The amount of pain will not be as intense every day, I promise. Some days will be harder than others and yes, you will have the days where you are mad as hell! Make a note to yourself….it’s ok to be angry too!
Growing up you want to think that you have the perfect parents, the perfect family, but in all honesty (and realism) you don’t. Your dad will be your best friend, biggest hero, biggest fan, toughest critic, and best person you know growing up. You would like to go through life blindly thinking that this is how it will always be. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always end up that way. The dad that you see every single day turns into the dad that...
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Dear Snake In The Grass,
Let me start by saying thank you. Yes, thank you.
You were the man that waltzed into my life and pretended to make me feel special. My naivety at that time left me foolishly entrusting you with my two little girls, and later a third.
You managed to turn a woman who had the world by the tail into one who soon became the sole provider, but I know realize it wasn't about money....it was control.
So, thank you for finally pushing me over the edge into a darkness only to be understood by other parents whose children have endured such heartache. Why? Well sit down, wipe the smug narcissistic "I'm the victim" smile off your face and let me explain.
You, and you alone in the most tragic of ways made me find the once dynamic, witty, and smart woman I was...
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My whole child hood was great, vacations, always going out, always doing something. But all that stuff never mattered to me, what mattered to me was having both of my parents, perfectly normal, and all I ever really had was one. You, you were always there for me even no matter what was going on, you never left me out in the dust when she had to go away. All thanks to you. I don't think I could've made it this far, with out you. Thank you for always being my rock. Thank you for always knowing what to do when shit hits the fans. I just want you to know how much I appreciate you, and I'm sorry our lives suck sometimes, but no matter how much they suck, I'm always glad to have you, so thanks Dad, for being a stable parent. For all of us.
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Dear Andrew,
As you can see I did not address this dear dad because you simply are not one, you're basically just a sperm donor. Please do not think that me writing this means I magically want you back in my life because I don't, not a single bit. I'm writing this for me, so I can let myself be free. How could you have gone 23 years and counting without trying to be a part of your daughters life? How could you have walked out months after I was born because drugs were more important than a wife and beautiful baby girl. How could something so ugly be more important than an amazing family? How could you not wake up every day hating yourself because of what you did, because I wake up every day hating you for it.
How could you not be affected by the fact you were never there for my...
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Good morning and happy easter.
I've waited a while to be able to message you. This morning seemed to be the ideal day.
Why you ask? On such a wonderful day, full of joy, surprises, family time, and love? Well allow to explain.... Today is a special day; not only because my family and I get to enjoy each others company hunting eggs and eating candy. But also because Christ rose up today from the grave. Upon doing so, he forgave a multitude of sins for not only you and i, but also, those who had him put into the grave. These people spit on him, lied about him, mocked him, called him horrible names, beat him, stabbed him, and nailed him up for all to watch him die. He could have, at any moment, chose to leave this world. But instead he took it- and forgave these horrible people for the...
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