When you're younger all you know is what your parents tell you. And that's okay. But then you grow up and your start looking at things in a different perspective, your own. As I was growing up I knew exactly what would happen to me. I'd graduate high school, go to college (10 minutes from the house bc that is as far as I was allowed to go), and then get married. When I was 19/20 that was all I wanted. But that's bc I didn't know what I wanted to do with school and I knew the only way out was through marriage. But everyone that ask for my hand in marriage wasn't right for me. To be honest I was way out of their league. And this is why they thought they could have me 1) I don't speak Arabic 2) I know nothing about the religion/culture 3) I don't come from a wealthy family 5) they knew no one better would ask for me bc I'm not worthy of a good Arab man bc my parents didn't teach me. It took me a long time to realize why only these type of men were asking for me. Not to mention they were 7-11 years older than me. Here's the thing though, I've been asked for since the age of 18 and my parents would say no. They didn't even tell me about half of them. If my parents were saying no for me then why did it become an issue when I said no? Here's why... the older I got the more I understood why parents marry their daughters off young. Bc when you are young you don't know any better. Here I am at 24 knowing exactly what I want out of life. And I'm sorry it isn't a man 10 years older than me telling me what I can and can't do. I'm 24 I want to travel, I want to work at my dream job, I want be able to find love the natural way. Not a man claiming you. I don't want to have kids anytime soon. I don't want to raise my future children this way. There's way more to life than this. So guess what. I will not be scared or bullied into a life I don't want just bc my parents are afraid of what other people may think of them. I will found a way out and I will get everything I want out of life.
